Do you feel like you’re always getting volun-told for things? I’m talking about those sneaky things that appear “voluntary” but are laced with all kinds of underlying expectations. It could be a fundraiser at work you’re “strongly encouraged” to participate in, something friends expect like going to every birthday party or shower, or even something society expects like how you’re supposed to live your life.
Usually, they come out of nowhere. You have no idea how it happened or how to possibly get out of them. And that’s the worst. You feel aggravated, resentful and overwhelmed because you’ve been pressured to do something that should be optional. Add to that your priorities that have to take a back seat, a desire to please people, and that pesky sense of responsibility, and the whole situation becomes one hot mess!
We all want to be responsible for our agenda because our time and money is precious. We want to choose how and when we spend it. Ideally, you want to make sure you stay in control by having clear boundaries for how and when you will give your time, energy, and resources. But in the meantime, if you’ve found yourself committed to something that you know for certain you can’t back out of, here are four tips to make the best of it and reclaim some control of the situation.
Simply changing how you approach the task or changing how you think about it can make all the difference in the world. So I’m going to invite you to take a moment and see if there’s an area of your life where you allow yourself to be volun-told to do things you don’t want. Try out one of these strategies this week and let me know how it changes things for you. Or, if you have another tip for dealing with being volun-told, I’d love to hear from you in the comments.
Kristine Schoonmaker, founder of Bold Dish, Inc., is dedicated to helping women create meaningful lives and invaluable friendships. Her eZine Bold Dish On the Go and signature “dinner parties in a box” marry life coaching and party planning to give you everything you need to have more fun, meaningful get-togethers with your girlfriends. If you’re ready to boldly create the life you’re craving, learn more and get your FREE eZine subscription at www.bolddish.com.
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